As I sat reflecting on a book I was reading about cultivating “practical joy,” a sudden realization struck me: At 61, I’m not entirely sure who I am anymore. This isn’t about feeling lost; it’s about seeing a new horizon. This realization, though deeply painful, is also a beacon calling me to be intentional about rediscovering who I am–beyond the roles and routines I’ve accumulated over the years. I hope this story supports you in your journey of rediscovering yourself.

The Power of Vulnerability in Self-Discovery

It’s easy to talk about our professions and our roles as caregivers or community members, but it takes more work to articulate who we are at our core. Many of us wake up one day, look in the mirror, and find a stranger staring back. This moment, while unsettling, is incredibly powerful. It’s a sign that it’s time to peel back the layers and get to the heart of our true selves.

For anyone who’s ever felt this disconnection, you understand the mix of fear and excitement that comes with it. I see it not as a setback but as an incredible opportunity—to rebuild, to reinvent, and, most importantly, to re-engage with myself in the most authentic way possible.

Steps to Begin Your Journey of Rediscovering Yourself

Acknowledge the Feeling

Start by acknowledging that feeling uncertain or lost is a part of life’s journey. It doesn’t define you; it refines you.

Reflect Deeply

Invest time in reflection. Whether it’s through journaling, meditation, or long walks alone, find a space where you can be with your thoughts and feelings without judgment.

Seek Inspirational Stories

Engage with stories of others who have reinvented themselves. This can be through books, podcasts, or even conversations with friends who have embarked on similar journeys.

Finding Your Tribe While Rediscovering Yourself

 As I navigate this chapter, I realize more about who isn’t my tribe, sharpening my understanding of who potentially could be. Identifying who we are not is as crucial as knowing who we are. This process helps me slowly build a community that mirrors my true self.

Expanding your tribe as you embark on this journey of self-discovery is not just beneficial—it’s enriching. Here are three practical ways to connect with like-minded individuals:

Join Special Interest Groups or Clubs

Look for groups that align with your interests, whether they are book clubs, gardening communities, or spiritual gatherings. Platforms like Meetup can be invaluable for finding local groups that share your passions.

Attend Workshops and Retreats

Engage in workshops or retreats that focus on personal growth, spirituality, or creative expression. These settings not only provide learning opportunities but also a chance to meet others who are on similar paths of self-discovery.

Leverage Social Media Networks

Use social media platforms to join groups and forums that resonate with your evolving interests. These can be particularly useful for connecting with people from diverse backgrounds and geographies, expanding your perspective and your tribe.

I’m learning that it’s okay to outgrow relationships, interests, and even old dreams. It’s a sign of growth. And as I take each step, I invite you, my reader, to join me. If you’re feeling a disconnect with who you are or wondering about your life’s deeper meaning, let’s explore this together.

A Call to Embrace Your True Self

I share this shift in my perspective because I know I’m not alone. I’m not looking for sympathy; I’m hoping for company on this journey to authenticity. To anyone out there who is also questioning, wondering, or pondering their identity, know that it’s never too late to start this exploration. It’s a journey worth taking, with every uncertain step leading to a clearer path.

Rediscovering yourself is more than finding out who you are; it’s about embracing and loving the person you become along the way. Let’s take these first steps together with open hearts and minds, ready to rediscover the incredible beings we are meant to be.


Veronica Drake

Veronica Drake

Intuitive Business Coach

I’m Veronica Drake, your guide to mastering instinct in business. I empower midlife women entrepreneurs to overcome overwhelm, stagnant growth, and decision-making anxiety. Together, we’ll transform you into a confident, intuitive leader, navigating from feeling spread thin to making strategic decisions with clarity. This journey is more than coaching; it’s a deep, visceral experience. It’s about embracing your raw intuitive power and emerging as a leader who thrives amid business complexities. Ready for growth, innovation, and mastery in leadership? Let’s embrace this transformative journey, redefining success and joy in your professional and personal life.